MusicMusic is an important part of many social rituals. One of the purposes of music is to help us access our feelings, both happy and sad. During the funeral ceremony, music helps us think about our loss and embrace our painful feelings of grief. Music that has personal meaning to you or the person who died expresses what words alone could never say.
ReadingsPoems, spiritual or religious verses, and passages from meaningful texts offer words of comfort and support. They eloquently capture our beliefs and feelings.
SymbolsObjects such as displayed belongings of the person who died, crosses and other religious items, candles, and flowers give concrete form to our search for meaning in life and death.
Eulogy / Remembrance
Also called the homily or tribute, the eulogy recalls and celebrates the life story of the person who died. It gives voice to our inner thoughts and feelings about him or her and helps us begin to embrace the meaning of this unique life.
The word "eulogy" comes from the Greek eulogia, meaning praise or blessing. This is the time to give thanks for a person's unique life and to honour his or her memory. This is not the time to bring up painful or difficult memories but to emphasize the good we can find in all people.
ActionsAfter the funeral, friends and family members gather to share memories, express what's on their minds and in their hearts, and support one another. Bonds are often strengthened, and mourners return home with a sense of community and love.